Reality-Check Summer 2018

I am not going to sugar coat this post, I am not going to tell you about my summer through Facebook smiling pictures which hide the reality of life. I am going to be raw and authentic about the last few weeks, because no-one is helped when you are not truthful.

So here it is – my summer was tough!

The first week of school has been tough! I had a major parent fail on the second day of school when my youngest (5 years old) refused to go back to kindergarten and I just lost it. In addition, I took a summer hiatus from teaching yoga AND unfortunately didn’t make it to any classes.  Hence I have not practiced any yoga for 4 weeks (and counting!).

It seemed like it didn’t matter whether we were at the pool, beach, out on a  day trip or traveling abroad, my kids still bickered and argued, annoyed each other like it was an Olympic sport, and managed to make me forget every good parent advice and technique I have ever learnt!

I spoke to one of my wise friends over the weekend (a mum of 5 boys!) and told her about my summer experience. Her response  – “Why did you think it would be any different? Kids are kids wherever they are, and will behave as such whether you are at home or on your dream holiday”.

I realised she was right. Which brings me to a thought I have written about before – Stress is created when reality DOES NOT meet expectations.

How many of us have visions of how we expect or wish our kids would behave. How many of us dreamed about how this summer would be just perfect? How many of us have expectations of how we will respond in a particular situation. Of course the concept of expectations meeting reality applies to a multitude of life and business situations. In every case the expectation is an artificial creation that we make, based on some ideal alter-reality that we concoct in our heads. And in case you haven’t realised it already – reality NEVER lives up to those expectations. All that is created is a sense of shame, guilt, embarrassment, failure and disappointment.