“School’s out for Summer” – do those words fill you with dread?
As a married, working mum of five, deep in the journey of establishing my own Yoga business and holding down a second job at the same time, summer is always going to be a stressful time. The time when routine gets thrown out the window, when kids always seem to be home, and you anticipate spending quality time together.
So you try to stay calm while getting ready for an afternoon at the beach or pool, limiting screen time (5 hours isn’t too much is it?), knowing that at some point you will lose your cool, probably when your child spills ice cream all over your car on the drive home!
Most mums try to experience the summer with as few traumas as possible and as many happy memories as they can buy, wanting to give their kids that perfect magical summer experience. But by the time Sept 1 rolls around and that school bell rings, you are filled with regret and sorrow over all the “should haves” and “could haves”, the tears and tantrums, the shouting and all those big expectations unfulfilled.
So how can you experience the summer in a different way. How can you and your kids enjoy the summer closer to the dreams and expectations you have on 1st July. Here are a few of my recommendations, based on tools and principles I have learnt from my own Yoga study and practice.
Disclaimer: All have been tried and tested by me! Sometimes I do better and sometimes I do worse. Sometimes I put my kids to bed at the end of the day knowing we all did well. And sometimes the only thing I can do is bite my tongue so hard, so that I don’t scream at them. The more you work at it, the easier it will become. But there are always going to be bad days… that’s just the way life is. The question is what lesson do you take with you from that experience!
1. First and most importantly – Give time to yourself over the summer. This is VERY hard with the lack of routine, but try to find small pieces of time to do something for yourself. However small the gesture is, it will make a big difference to your state of mind!